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Monete and I had been friends for years. Now our friendship had shattered and lay in pieces at my feet. Monete was directing a drama for our youth group, and as the weeks went by, I grew concerned about some of her methods/ Unfortunately, instead of sharing this with her. I told someone else . She told Monet, I could understand why Monete was angry, I was heartbroken and wondered if our friendship could survive.
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You can't let go of it until the other person suffers as you have. The problem is, they probably never will by your standards. So you trapped in a cage of your own making and can't get out- until you acknowledge your need for help to be set free.
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Ask God to give you a forgiving spirit. It sounds almost too simple ,but many have found that promise to be a power tool of the soul.
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Yes, they asked God to give them a forgiving spirit and then expected Him to do it. For some it came quickly, for others it took years. But healing did come
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Yield the bitterness and desire for revenge to God. Say out loud or write in a journal something like this "Father in heaven, the bitterness I've been holding on to has kept me in bondage long enough. Please take it away and help me to go on now to something better. Thank you," As you do that, allow yourself to feel the emotional release that takes place as you let go.
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Do good toward your offender. This is the final step in the healing process. It may take some time before you get there , but you know you've been set free when you can hope for the best for your offender and can do them good.
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Observe the golden rule. Every other relationship-building principle can be wrapped up in this one. When you can do to others what you would want them to do to you if you were in their place, you will be doing the best you can to assure yourself of relationships that have the power to keep you well.
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