There are Two Sides to Bullying

There are two sides to bullying. There is the bully and then there is the person being bullied. No matter who is who in the equation, there are external and internal factors that are occurring that cause the bully to bully and these factors then cause the bullied person to feel broken and battered by the harm being inflicted upon him or her. This is an issue that occurs in many schools and bullying can ultimately lead to acts of violence.

The Bully

Not all bullies are the product of bad home environments. There can be other factors that come into play that cause them to be a bully and sometimes these factors are never 100% identified.

Some parents when they find out that their child is a bully, will tend to be proactive about the situation. When someone tells them that their child is being a bully, the parent will think about what factors may be coming into play and will address the problem. If the issue is learning how to address aggression, then the parent can help the child do this.

However, there are those who are bullies because of their home environment and their parents addressing the problem will not prove beneficial. This is when a school must evaluate the child’s behavior and arrange the proper assistance, usually in the way of having the child consult with the guidance counselor. If it is deemed that the child’s home environment is abusive, the school can take action to ensure the child is placed in a better situation. This can solve school violence issues. It is all in the teachers and other administrators being alert and aware of the behavior of their students.

The Bullied

The bullied student can feel isolated, violated, and can have a variety of problems as a result of a bully. Believe it or not, it is the bullied students that tend to resort to violence in order to get the bullying to stop. Unfortunately, a bullied student is usually the victim of more than one bully, which is what can drive him or her over the edge.

It is ideal that parents of a bullied student to teach their child how to stand up for him or herself in a reasonable yet aggressive way. This does not mean resulting to violence, but letting the bully know that the behavior can’t continue. If it does, the child should know that it is okay to ask for help.

Teachers should observe each student’s behavior. Teachers are usually receptive to a student undergoing issues, so it is ideal to check with the student regarding anything that may be going on if it is noticed that he or she is depressed or there are changes in their grades.

In the end, it is up to parents and educators to ensure that bullying is curbed before it leads to violence in schools.